The woman in you

My favorite comedy show is Frasier which started in the late 1990s. I bet you didn't expect that, did you? Frasier was originally a character in a Boston-based series, "Cheers," starring Kristey Alley, who was one of the most popular actresses at the time. Later, the series continued but focused on Frasier, his family and friends. I have watched this show so many times, and my favorite character has always been Rose. Yes, Rose. Not Daphny.

Daphny had it all figured out, she fell in love with the right guys, then had a baby and didn't have to work much after she got married. Daphny's biggest crisis was the fact that she was gaining weight and her husband was too in love to see it, and so was she.

Rose wasn't. Rose noticed every time a zipper wouldn't go up. Rose met the bad boys as they are called, Rose ended up getting pregnant by a student, and all while having a career. Rose was amazing at her job, she produced so well on the show that the owners of the Frasier radio station had a hard time finding a replacement. Rose had a baby, her body changed, nothing will ever be the same again, but Rose found a way to go out with her friends while her baby still needed a babysitter. Come on ladies! That deserves a round of applause.

Rose had maternal instincts just like us. She had to pack her daughter's lunch box in the morning, do the laundry, take care of her, change her diapers, color, choose good babysitters, while in the morning she had to get up early, get ready for work. She also had her professional career to manage. On top of all that, Rose had dates. She was dieting, losing weight when her clothes didn't fit, and most importantly, she was able to keep the woman in her.

Yes, that woman in you, the one who wants to be courted, the one who wants to be bought flowers after a date... Admit it, as the Frasier song says, "she left the building"... How this came to my attention is a very funny story. My sister-in-law, 25 years old and still single, came to spend some time at our house. And I noticed how long it takes her to get ready to go out. I mean, in just 15 minutes I can shower, dress, do my hair and even manage to check the kids' lunch boxes. My sister-in-law is a different story. She has different bags, some for her hair products, others for her face products and of course bags for her body products. Razors were always within reach; she wore a satin cap at night while also having her shower cap.

Looking at all this, I finally realized that she reflected another version of me. I had a hair regimen, a face regimen and a body regimen for my skin. I had a puff and a glove for better exfoliation and, of course, I knew how to make natural masks to make my skin glow. My high heels were always on point and something in my outfits had to match my nail polish for the week. My sunglasses were always in my car and I religiously did my hair every week.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not currently complaining about the lack of time to do all of this regularly, but I'm wondering where that woman went? Where is she? Is she buried inside? Did she leave the minute the doctor said "You need to push" or "Ma'am here's your baby" or is she somewhere out there and someone needs to remind her that she has left her shell. It's not even a question of time, it's a question of desire to bring this woman back. We have no desire for her to come back...but this woman, she thought about herself a little bit more, took care of herself a little bit more and was happy...a little bit more. So maybe? Maybe being a mom and a professional takes a lot out of you? Maybe we feel like we're always running, hence the flats or ballet flats that go everywhere with us except to important meetings? But maybe we also need to bring a little bit of that woman back, and once a week, after putting everyone to bed early, we soak in a bath or take a hot shower while exfoliating with our glove, use our old diet, put on those high heels and actually go on a DATE.... And then maybe that woman in you will slowly come up and you will finally be complete.

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